Today, I almost turned my Jdate profile back on. The only thing that stopped me was that the site is down for maintenance. That's ok. I do have a little dilemma I should deal with before going live again. The question: those two cancelled coffee dates back in the good old days of Jake, should I renew them? Still thinking on that one.
I have activated my profile on another online site (which will remain nameless). I have written to a couple of people and received one response. The guy was funny, and I gave him my number in the second message I sent. His response? I quote:
Of course I wanna hear more! I suck at calling people on the phone, though (ask my Mom). To me the phone is a wondrous and mysterious instrument that I try not to use. But I do pick it up when it vibrates. If you like, give me a call XXX-XXX-XXXX. Or email me at john@doe.comI think we understand that he sucks at making calls. I want to ask him, does that mean you will never, ever call me? Will you answer messages if I leave one or would I just have to keep calling until you manage to pick up the phone? Are all transactions email only? Are you just as bad at sending email? In other words, what the fuck?
ps - I'm not joking about phones. I suck. SUCK!
And I want to ask myself, do you really think you want to be friends with this person, let alone date him and set up any kind of expectations at all? I think a friends only approach would be the only way to go in this case. Or, I could just ignore him and not answer his message. My minimum requirement these days is that the guy call me first. I hate making that first call and I’ve done it many times. I’m done. I’ll return a call, but he needs to be willing to take that much initiative. Hmm, maybe I’m not crazy, I’m just a demanding, uh, person. Heh heh.
You should totally go friends-only for now, though as a fellow Phone Suckee, I am inclined to respect his honesty for the phone sucking thing. I am way better on email than on the phone, and isn't that silly since it requires - um - a phone line of some sort?
ReplyDeleteAnyhow, the only people I call with any regularity are my mom and LeAnn (to catch up on work sagas) and Steve (to see what's for dinner/when he's coming home). But even when Steve and I first started going out, it was more email than phone.
Cheers
KJ
The only other person I would call regularly was Mara but now she's in a foreign country and in the same time zone, no less; much handy convenience it is to have people on the west coast to call on a late late night here.
ReplyDeleteCheers
KJ
Yes, I do give him honesty points. But he can't even pick up the phone ONCE? I dunno. I suppose you and I were never phone buddies, but it was not a problem. Mostly email is fine. If I respond to this guy, I will write to him. I wanted to point him to the blog, but now that he's been quoted it's probably not such a good idea :)
ReplyDeleteYou could certainly call him and email him at the same time and see what he does back. :) I don't think he'd never call, but just preparing you for "bad reception". Besides, the phone is intimidating: you can sit and compose thoughts in an email but if you're silent over the end of a phone line it's a lot harder.
ReplyDeleteHey thanks for the blog shout-out!
Cheers
KJ